It’s really vital that you have a foundation based on what you and your partner expect, (not what was modelled to you by your own parents) and find compromise where your beliefs aren’t completely aligned - rather than make assumptions on where your partner stands on issues - imagining your partner will ‘come round’ or change to your ways of thinking in time!
This can include a range of issues from: how to raise children across different cultures and religions; waiting until your partner’s finance comes through; basic division of household chores; caring for elderly parents; boundaries with ex partner’s and friends.
Couples who are in the early days of their relationship won’t be thinking of this, nor would they have experienced conflict, but let’s be honest here, a few years in, people do change, you may have bills to pay and kids to care for - and that’s why it’s important to learn how to regulate your emotions during stressful times and communicate to get your needs met, but without conflict.
So yes, being compatible is important, but you also want to have the skills to keep the marriage healthy, the spark alive, respecting and grateful every single day, especially during more difficult times.
This is where pre- marital therapy can really be an education.
You get to decide how many sessions you would like, goals you wish to achieve - it may be that you had experienced trauma prior to this new relationship and want to deal with some history and personal issues first, confidentially, as individual sessions.
And don’t worry, your investment will be paid back as you share your life’s purpose and dreams with your partner, growing stronger as time passes, deepening your connection, and creating stability and clarity for everyone, including family around you. Call me for a free consultation
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