We all deal with loss in different ways and it’s natural to grieve, but it can be difficult to cope with the intense emotions that can follow the death of a loved one, or, if it goes on for a long time it can become ‘complicated grief’ and problematic. We need to grieve, yes, but we don’t want it to completely take over our lives. The bereavement programme is a supportive and custom- tailored approach to help you focus on the positive love you shared, rather than on the sadness of your grief, giving yourself the time to find some calm and peace for yourself. It will allow you to process your grief, but at a pace that is right for you.
Research shows that although living with a narcissist can alter the healthiest individual into becoming conditioned to ‘living in compliance’ with an abuser, it is a particular personality- style which attracts troubled and self- centred partners. Co-dependents are often attracted to emotionally unavailable partners, yet they stay in the hopes they can change the person. No matter what happens, they won’t stop hoping that one day things will be good. This thinking is destructive if we do not have healthy boundaries that protect us from physical and emotional harm and signal to our partner that their abusive behaviour is not acceptable.
Is your relationship simply not going the way you want it to, or has it become hard work due to disagreement or conflict? Is trying to talk about it simply not getting you anywhere?
Are you starting to lose hope and even confidence in yourself? You want to be in a great relationship, but are tired of searching for the ‘one.’ There may be many reasons that your current dating situation is leaving you feeling rejected and unfulfilled.
If you thought you would be with someone for the rest of your life and the relationship ends, this can leave you with feelings of despair. This can be a mixture of anxiety, feeling abandoned and unable to cope, as you try and work out financial and children issues, whilst feeling lost and fragile yourself.
Anxiety is the most common mental health problem in the UK, and while its normal to feel anxious when life becomes stressful, when this crosses the line and you’re experiencing intense emotions of worry, fear of loss of control, unease, restlessness; or physical symptoms of tightness in the chest, looking to avoid situations, it might be time to get some help.
Fear of speaking in public or even small groups; fear of rejection, judgement; over-giving in relationships or accepting crumbs; saying ‘yes’ to another drink, or slice of cake, when you really mean ‘no’; and not being able to accept a compliment - are all signs of low self- esteem.
No one ever expects or wants to be betrayed. For this reason, the discovery that your partner has been unfaithful can be very upsetting. It can turn your world upside down and shatters whatever you thought you knew about him and your future together. As well as the profound break in trust, betrayal means a loss of security, loss of respect and, above all, the loss of the ‘perfect relationship’ ideal.
If you are unhappy in your marriage, or going through divorce or bereavement, live with over protective parents or difficult in-laws, your partner may be toxic, or you have money/career issues, even illness. My programme will look deeply into what’s missing in your life and change the perfectionist tendencies/over analysing, or negative thinking style, imagining worst possible scenarios which are highly predictable patterns and perceptions in maintaining Depression.
If your arguments quickly escalate to outbursts of Anger, this may be a barrier to calm communication, as you lose control over the ability to think clearly. Likewise, if you are struggling with any type of Addiction; binge drinking at the weekend with no ‘off button’, compulsive shopping or a romantic obsession, as your default, this may also create dysfunction in your relationship, because your moods will always, not only affect you, but those around you.
Congratulations … you are engaged, happy, work well together and have minimal problems. So why would you consider Couples Therapy? People often think that this is for when things ‘go wrong,’ but pre marriage therapy also works for partners who want to “tune-up” their relationship, and remain on a healthy path, or may be one of you is simply feeling anxious about tying the knot!
Hypno-meditation Classes are a powerful but gentle combination of hypnotherapy and meditation to deeply relax the mind, rejuvenate the body and nourish ourselves internally.
Read Reviews from Clients just like you
Anita, you identified exactly where the root problem was and now we are working on it – I’m practicing to pause and reflect before speaking hurtful, blaming responses. There is definitely work to do but I see less conflict now. Thank you so much.
T.SI came to see Anita for sleep problems, but uncovered overthinking, fear of judgement and perfectionist thinking, that I was completely unaware of. Anita helped me to understand more about this, how to spot it and deal with ‘too many negative thoughts’. Hypnotherapy, CBT and Mindfulness helped me focus back into the moment, rather than constantly worry about the future.
Anon
